Jay explores how living in a world of likes, ratings, and constant feedback can make us lose touch with our own judgment. He shares five shifts for relying less on outside approval and building more trust in yourself: from learning to read yourself instead of the room and separating belonging from approval, to questioning what you really want and building self-trust through the small promises you keep to yourself.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
0:00 Introduction
00:24 What’s Really Behind the Need for Validation
03:20 Five Shifts From External to Internal Validation
03:38 Reading The Room Vs. Reading Yourself
06:09 Evolution, Tribe Instincts, And Borrowed Opinions
08:18 Why is Rejection So Painful?
12:16 Escaping The Box
15:32 Auditing Your Desires And Expectations
18:06 Building Self-Trust Vs. Chasing Confidence
25:15 Stop Watching Your Life From the Outside
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