09 сентября 2024
Nicole LePera: How to Break the Cycle of Trauma Bonds & Stop Toxic Relationship Habits
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What are your emotional needs?
How do you communicate them clearly?
Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically.
Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to recognize trauma bonds
How to break the cycle of reactivity
How to set healthy boundaries
How to cultivate self-awareness
How to develop emotional resilience
How to foster a growth mindset in relationships
Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:44 You Create Change 06:58 Toxic Family Members 11:21 Change is Voluntary 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships 22:58 The Unmet Needs 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? 41:55 Panic Attack 48:54 Chronic Illness 53:54 Countering Beliefs 57:17 Physiological Shifts 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity 01:06:24 Inner Child Work 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically
Episode Resources: Nicole LePera | Website Nicole LePera | Instagram Nicole LePera | Facebook Nicole LePera | TikTok Nicole LePera | YouTube Nicole LePera | LinkedIn How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
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