Do you think your “type” limits you? What’s one unrealistic dating expectation you’ve had? Today, Jay welcomes back one of the most insightful voices in modern dating and relationships, Stephan Speaks. If you’ve been searching for clarity in love, struggling with self-worth in dating, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong partners, this conversation is a must-listen. Jay and Stephan kick off by breaking down one of the biggest struggles in today’s dating world—the negative perception of men and women. They explore how sensationalized online narratives and personal biases shape our beliefs about relationships, often distorting reality. Stephan explains how social media and exaggerated dating horror stories create unnecessary fear and distrust, making it harder for people to embrace love.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of failed relationships, Stephan reveals that understanding yourself first is the key to finding the right partner. He emphasizes three critical factors: first, accepting the differences between men and women instead of resisting them; second, knowing yourself before entering a relationship, as many people struggle because they aren’t even clear on what they truly need; and third, prioritizing healing, because unresolved pain from past experiences will continue to affect every new connection.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Letting Dating Myths Mislead You How to Attract the Right Partner by Knowing Yourself How to Heal Before Your Next Relationship How to Communicate With a Closed-Off Partner How to Break the Cycle of Failed Relationships If you’ve felt frustrated, discouraged, or like love just isn’t in the cards for you, remember this: the right relationship isn’t something you chase, it’s something you attract by becoming the best version of yourself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free Monk Mode newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:28 The Difference Between Average Men and Women 11:30 Why Men Often Don't Date Ambitious Women 17:28 Understand Who Your Partner Really Is 23:55 Negative Perception of Men When Dating 28:52 Coveting the Desirables 32:27 How to Not Love Bomb Your Partner 40:32 If He Wanted to He Could 43:59 Emotional Maturity in Relationships 48:28 Always Be Open to Connection 53:34 Insecurities and Jealousy 01:01:15 How Do You Initiate Open Communication? 01:09:56 All Is Not Lost in Breakups 01:17:35 The Right Person at the Wrong Time 01:22:43 Every Dating Relationship is a Process Episode Resources: Stephan Speaks | Website Stephan Speaks | TikTok Stephan Speaks | Instagram  Stephan Speaks | Youtube Stephan Speaks | LinkedIn Stephan Speaks | Books See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.