20 июня 2025
If You Can’t Get Over Your Ex—Listen to This! (7 Steps to Stop Obsessing and FINALLY Move on After a Breakup)
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Do you still think about your ex a lot?
What’s been the hardest part of moving on?
Today, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical guide for anyone moving through heartbreak. He explains that the pain of a breakup often comes from more than just losing someone, but it’s grieving the life we imagined with them and the version of ourselves we felt when we were loved.
Jay walks through seven clear steps to help listeners begin their healing journey. From gaining clarity to quieting the overthinking spiral and finding your own closure, he offers real, actionable tools to help you move forward. Jay reminds listeners that you’re not missing them, you’re missing the idea of them. And that pain doesn’t mean the relationship was meant to be, it means you cared.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Stop Romanticizing the Past
How to Stop Blaming Yourself
How to Rebuild After a Breakup
How to Trust Yourself Again
How to Know It Wasn’t Love
Healing is possible even if it doesn't feel like it right now. It’s not about getting back to who you were before, it’s about becoming someone stronger, wiser, and more self-aware.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:53 Are You Heartbroken?
03:18 Step #1: Let Go of the Fantasy You Created
07:08 The Three Most Important Things in a Relationship
08:45 Step #2: Stop the Obsession Spiral
13:39 Step #3: Kill the Narrative that It Was Your Fault
17:28 Step #4: Find Closure On Your Own Terms
19:42 Step #5: Feeling Pain Doesn't Mean It Was Meant to Be
21:37 Step #6: Redirect Your Energy
22:18 Step #7: Stop Waiting to Feel Ready
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