Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again? Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on the hit series Couples Therapy. Known for helping couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, conflict, and emotional patterns, Orna shares the real reason relationships break down — and what it actually takes to build something that lasts. Jay and Orna explore why couples often blame communication as the root of all their problems, when what’s really breaking them down runs much deeper. They explore how differences in values, backgrounds, and even childhood wounds create invisible barriers in love—and how we often try to solve them by changing the other person instead of turning inward. Orna shares how blame, defensiveness, and scorekeeping keep us stuck in toxic patterns, and what it looks like to show up with more honesty, humility, and curiosity. Together Jay and Orna unpack the rise of therapy language online—terms like “gaslighting” and “narcissist”—and how misusing them can shut down the kind of open dialogue relationships truly need. They also explore how issues around money, time, and intimacy often point to deeper struggles with power, identity, and emotional safety. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner How to Recognize the Real Issue Beneath the Argument How to Make Conflict a Source of Connection How to Move from Blame to Responsibility How to Stay Grounded When Your Values Clash How to Build a Relationship That Grows with You Real love doesn’t ask us to become someone else — it asks us to grow into our most honest, grounded self. This episode is a reminder that healthy relationships aren’t about avoiding differences, but about learning how to navigate them with compassion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:06 Why Couples Really Fight: The Common Core Conflicts   04:02 Facing “Otherness”: What Happens When Your Partner Is Different   06:07 Embracing Differences Without Losing Yourself   10:21 Building a Partnership of Equals During Conflict   16:48 Holding On to Your Value in a Relationship   19:39 Conflicting Loyalties: When Family and Love Collide   25:18 The Art of Working Through Relationship Struggles   30:01 Digging Deeper: Finding the Root of Your Disagreements   33:26 Escaping the Blame Trap in Your Relationship   37:24 Self-Centeredness vs. Shared Growth   43:07 Creating Emotional Safety for Your Partner   49:57 Letting Love In: Are You Truly Ready for Partnership?   55:33 How Men and Women Tend to Navigate Relationships Differently   57:02 Why It’s So Hard for Men to Open Up Emotionally   01:00:59 Listen Closely—People Reveal More Than You Think   01:03:20 When Parental Baggage Shapes Your Relationship   01:06:57 Signs of a Strong and Healthy Relationship   01:13:35 What Really Makes Someone a Bad Partner?   01:18:35 Are You in Love with a Narcissist?   01:22:12 The Money Struggles Behind Relationship Conflict   01:28:46 Intimacy and Desire: What Keeps Love Alive  01:33:25 Orna on Final Five  Episode Resources: Orna Guralnik | Website Orna Guralnik | Linkedin Orna Guralnik | Instagram Orna Guralnik | Tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.